I suggest you take your focus of of your W and focus on you. No one here, nor you can say whether she will want to reconcile or not. But this is the point to staying focused on you. Simply,(not easily) become the man only a fool would leave. This is a win win way for you.
It is time for you to move forward with you and maybe discontinuing with so much debate..... I have read much in your story that shows you know the way forward.... Stopping along the way to debate frequently simply slows down the process for you and does not really clarify what can not be clarified.... You know that debating the future or what someone else feels really is a cheeseless tunnel. We both know that nobody except your w knows what your w is feeling or will do. Heck she does not even know...... So why waste any thought or debate on the matter? Identifying what you can do to heal and become a better you and taking action is where you will gain control.
You can do this......
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine