I look at it this way. The divorce is not the problem, the marriage was!! Why? Because the marriage is a legal, financial and religious contract meant to trap a spouse which has nothing to do with love!!! The divorce is the solution to this problem! Now you are free to love each other without feeling trapped! Now the only thing that can and will hold you together is your love and your kids, and yes, believe me, she still loves you! She probably will love you after the divorce more than she is loving you now! So why give up? She doesn't have another man! You and I are lucky! Most men here have to deal with cheating wifes and OM problems, we don't! If you look at it that way, things will get better and you will be thankful to your wife for getting divorced! Don't look for another girl, that will only create a lot of problems! Your wife is an attractive and intelligent woman who cares about you and the kids. She will become very friendly after the divorce, believe me! Hugs
