Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #4]

[CT1118]

ForGump, Coly23, AndrewP, Cherry...so much in the above. And bless all of you for the support that has been offered. This is the hardest GD thing I have ever faced, and as I believe you all have read my tale, that is no small statement. FG, hold your head up high. If this experience led you to do one great thing, you have helped me on my own journey. But you have done many great things, so don't stop there. There is nothing wrong with nice guys, I am one of them. You have shown nothing but strength to this point; even coming here and bleeding showed strength. Imagine how few of us come here and speak to the most despicable things in our lives, the greatest trespasses, and the issues that others would die before they told, and then think of the many who don't. We came here wanting to have our marriages last in and era when they simply do not, not in greater numbers anyway. Simply fighting for this something to be proud of.

To be honest, most days I do not think I will make it. Somehow I just keep trying though, simple read like as Coly23 said:

But I also agree that we shouldn't give up!

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Looking at things for what they are to you does not mean you have given up. Do not ever give up on yourself my friend - I do not think that you have.

Just know:

What I think we can both say though is that when they walked / walk out of that door that they will know that they left behind a kind, decent man who loved them dearly and who would move heaven and earth if only to see them smile one more time.

I am not sure they know that at the time of walking out, but they will know it one day, and they will be old enough to care about what they lost. Their search is longer than ours. Yes, they made us realize that we made mistakes too, but we understood to cure a headache, you do not remove the head.

Lastly, I can't speak for Cherry:

It is super hard not to give up, but I guess we just need to continue working on us. If it hadn't been for this site, I'm sure I'd be a super teary depressed woman barely getting through the day.

But I have to imagine that when she said that about this site, part of what made her not give up was your story, your words, and the affect you have had here thus far my friend. I know I would have meant it that way. This site has been the glue which held my pieces together many times. People like all of you.

If your W never sees you as normal again I think she is right. Normal these days is selfish, self-righteousness, and instantaneous experience - you sought the selfless, the self-equal, and the long run my friend - that ain't normal no more. I wish you the best night you can have.