Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #4]

[AndrewP]

ForGump - I believe I've been called a "nice guy" and a few other words on these forums as well.

We can both be proud to hold our heads high for the efforts we have made. One of the things I did that seems similar to your own personality is that I treated my W with respect and courtesy even during the darkest of times. I can recall only two times when I ever raised my voice to her, once when I found out about OM "why the [censored] are you still here?" and once when she told me that instead of going out with friends like she earlier that she was going to OM (I threatened to take off my wedding ring and she backed down).

What I think we can both say though is that when they walked / walk out of that door that they will know that they left behind a kind, decent man who loved them dearly and who would move heaven and earth if only to see them smile one more time.

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It's a bit sad for me these days on the forum. Even though I still think of myself as a "newbie" and I am, sometimes I feel like a vet. Over the last 6 months I've seen quite a few people come and go. A small number have indeed started the path towards reconciliation but we seem to have a current "bump" in the group that feels like / is giving up. That's just the nature of these things I suppose that there are spikes in arrivals and departures just like everywhere. ForGump - I was very impressed when you joined our group here. You were burning for answers, open and willing to help others (and still are) and generally positive and optimistic. You and CT1118 changed the tone of the whole forum with your detailed researches, thoughtful answers. I must admit that reading what you wrote helped give me strength when I needed it. Prior to that much of the feedback I was getting on Newcomers was "GAL", "detach", "move on" (which I interpreted as give up). I was getting very disheartening. Even though I am positive you'll hang around for a while, I just wanted to say "thanks".

Just to close I think it was Cadet who posted on someone's thread something to the effect
"You only have to give up when they pile dirt on you".