Had a laugh with my IC about H. I explained to her both incidents of him asking me to tell kids that he won't come and decide for him if he wants to come and see his kids. She made me understood that his anger towards me was because I was standing up to him, that I was making him responsible for his own choices, and that he no longer able to blame me for his actions.
We also carried on talking about how much progress I have made since I stated working with her nearly a year ago (despite having some relapses), and where I am now if H decides to come back. I told her that I'm still in working progress, whereas H hasn't even started to work on his own issues to become a better man. So I am ahead of him, and he looks like he will probably never catch up with me. She added that I sounded so much more positive, but mainly in my comments to her she could see that I have started to love myself. It was so nice to have her giving me such a great compliment.
IC said that H was treating OW differently than me but it doesn't necessarily means that he is happier. Also his actions of not introducing OW to our kids could be an indication that OW isn't that great nor the love of his life. If she was she'd have been in contact with my kids.
She also added that it was normal that I feel sad considering all that is happening to me at the moment. Today I feel at peace and happy.
