I belong here, and hope I can stay

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Mowgli,

I've mentally/theoretically forgiven her.

I still deal with the emotional forgiveness. Not on a daily level, but on a situational, few-times-a-week level.

And that's us Divorced for 4 months, not seeing each other except for kid exchanges! The hysterical bonding would help to cement the relationship, knowing the really rough patches are working through the anger and betrayal (you) and shame and loneliness (her).

I think you might benefit from some communication classes together. From our chats here, I would think you're very proficient at this, but doing this together would help tremendously. Maybe not - just an observation.

I enjoy seeing your posts - so I'm encouraging it!

So happy to see you blessed with a reconciled marriage. Hard work - so much work. But worth it.