Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

[JRuss]

ForGump -- yes, still separate bedrooms. Sold to me as a one-night thing after our last fight/R talk but obviously fully intended to be long-term/permanent. This is an outgrowth, I'm sure, of her hiring the IC, err divorce coach, I was (rightly) worried about. She's all about there not being any "mixed messages". In terms of alleviation of torment, at first I was horribly hurt by it but am actually sleeping a little better the last couple of nights, so it hasn't been entirely bad. I realized I was fundamentally exhausted trying and thinking and worrying and not sleeping pretty much all the time, so it's been good to fall asleep and stay asleep for 4-5 hours without waking up and staring at the ceiling.

I don't think she'd go for that separation model, but if I do end up needing physical separation, it's probably where I'll start the discussions so that maybe I end up in a still-good (for me) place.