JR-- you guys still in separate bedrooms? Does that help alleviate your torment?
I'm not pushing this at all, but just hypothetically...
What would your W say, do you think, if you suggested that she move out and you guys work out a schedule for her to come by. She could even come by every morning and evening.
I've heard of that type of arrangement, as well as one where both parents actually share the same apartment in alternating time schedules.
(None of this would have *ever* worked for my situation. W too irrational)
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final