In my opinion, it sounds like getting her to "attach" isnt and hasnt been so difficult for you, but "keeping" her attached IS. What will you do differently during this time in order to make that "deeper" connection?
Yea exactly. I have thought about this for months.
First off, I have identified her love language and will work to show her. I think I have been doing that already. I also asked her to read the love language book which she has. I told her how, when I look back, I didn’t really feel loved by here either. We just show love in two completely different ways. Second, and this is a major issue for me, I need to completely let go and go all in 100%. I have been guarded since she first broke my heart many, many years ago. I think that hurts us since I am not letting go completely. This means complete transparency. Third, we need consoling to improve our communication and sex life, no doubt. It’ll take a ton of work and patience. Finally, I am not tolerating any of the BS signs of disrespect if we get back together. No more eye rolls or anything else.
Thanks for the comments Altair. I guess that plan A sounds about right.
