Point well taken Zues126! "nothing serious right now" would be a total lie though. I cant even remember how that lady looked or acted really. In a fog. There have been others since then recently (and I can remember)!!! I have had more female interactions lately than I've had for the last 20 years? But, Cessna is a Stander! I'm definitely not a "major catch" or good looking... family man by and large. Integrity, commitment, courage,and honesty are my attributes I think? Dang,I just don't get it or where
In our age group you're a golden catch. The show "House" had a great quote when House's older friend had a cheating wife who had left him and returned years later and wanted him back.
He said "People change, House."
House: "Yep, they get older, ovaries dry up, and nice guys like you start to look attractive again."
There is so much truth in that. Since you're NOT a cheater but a nice, employed, stand-up guy, the single ladies from ages 36 and up consider you a top-notch catch. A rare find. If you divorce you'll do just fine. As is, I'm serious, your comings and goings are NOT your wife's business. She wanted out. Out means she gets no say in anything you do. That's the 180. That's detaching. That's GAL. You do what you want to do.
You asked for vets. I'm one. A vet that reconciled with my cheater. Go find my story. The nice guy act didn't work. It was when I truly detached and was moving on that she saw that us nice stand-up guys are really a treasure. She snapped out of her stupid behavior and I went from the pursuer to the pursued.
If you have kids then that needs to be the only discussions you have with her. Questions about your social life are none of her business.
