I found that in the beginning I made some 180s and behavior changes that just didn't work for me so I have stopped doing those. I do what feels right for me. I don't want to make changes that are not something I'm happy with doing for the rest of my life.
Theres a user named CaliGuy that recommended the following:
Make three lists of 10 - List 1 is things you like about yourself List 2 is 10 things you dont like about yourself (be it things your W didnt like or you dont like) List 3 is 10 things you admire in other women
Then your 180s should focus on moving things from lists 2 and 3 into list 1. That way you can give yourself some direction in how you want to improve.
