I think I went around the same corner this weekend, ForGump, albeit under different circumstances.

I know DB doctrine says no talks with relatives, but what was your sin, really -- caring and talking with someone who also cares deeply about her? She's going to twist it around because she has to keep making you out to be the problem and the reason for all of her unhappiness, but it's bull$Hit, man. Try not to let it impact how you feel about yourself. You're a good man trying very hard to stand for your kids and your marriage under essentially impossible conditions. That is good and noble. If it wasn't this, it would have been something else. Keep your head up.


Me: 46
W: 44
Married: 17
Together 21
D13; S10
BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you)
Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage
Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)