I need to text something definitive that sounds right, so she won't feel she gets a free pass to date.
The problem with telling her your feelings is twofold: 1) She gets to feel safer that you are her plan B, 2) The idea of remaining true to your vows is an attempt to make her feel guilty about breaking hers. Guilt = Control. Control will trigger rebelliousness.
She won't feel guilty, she'll just do what she wants to and blame you for forcing her to leave anyway.
The best bet is to not engage in this. If she persists you could just say "Nothing serious right now". That is true but about as ambiguous as can be. Then shift the conversation back to co-parenting topics.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
