You have been so helpful and encouraging in my sitch. I would at least like to offer some support to you. Are are dealing with a tough situation. I almost like the idea of bringing home empty boxes, as something in your R has to shift. It did in mine....I didn't want it to. I was more uncomfortable prior to h leaving the house. You probably remember, cuz you were very supportive at that time (end of Feb).....Anyway after h left, I was immediately relieved, to my surprise. No longer walking on eggshells, worrying about his mood, analyzing every behaviour. It was hard, but yet it gave me independence and strength in a wierd sort of way. I surrounded myself with supportive people...from my church and close friends. I kept busy...took good care of me. HUGE!
Left H alone....let him make contact. He needed his space...and to figure out his sitch. To this day I do not know if OW has been involved since last summer. It's not about "us" at all. The WAS need to focus on them. So that's where even more patience comes to play on your part.
That's what has been working for me. I'm not saying there weren't hard moments, and pain....but as I grew stronger, built up my life some....H took notice. Now he is on the pursuit, as you know. DBing works, even in a separation.
Just some thoughts based on my recent experience. None of us know what the future holds, but we do know we can only depend on ourselves and of course God.
