Thank you, Lim. Very helpful!

When you say you went dark, did that mean you did not reply to trivial texts (Like the funny youtube cat video she sent, etc)?

What was the length of time between going dark and piecing for you? Was the going dark critical to that eventually happening in your mind?

PS: I have been reading, absorbing and being 99.8% faithful to Sandi's Rules and they have helped me immensely. Thank you!


Me: 49 She: 44
Married: 23 years
No Children
Separated: 4 months