Gosh Cherry, this is such a lot for you to deal with. AndrewP is right your H does need some professional help as soon as possible.

Take care of yourself and your little chicks Cherry we are all here for you...

Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')