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[DonH]

I'm late in doing so but wanted to respond to my favorite person on here - or one of them anyhow. You and I continue to be so much alike, I swear. I could have written much of that post you did about no one asks you out and so many you just don't have an initial attraction to. I so hear you as I'm living both. I too have moved to trying as best I can to look past that. Some aspects are harder than others when it comes to the attraction piece. But that's more for my own thread.

What I hoped to help you with is this masculine energy thing you seem to have going - and that's what is hurting your chances. You are one of the guys and then wonder why the "guys" are not asking you out. Really? What guy wants to date his buddy? I've heard Patti Stanger talk about this when coaching women (don't shoot me, yes I've watched the millionaire match maker). I'm not telling you to change who you are. Not at all. That's what makes you, you. But are you approachable? Do you give off energy that you are open to being asked out? Guys need to be the man and women need to let them - at least for attraction to build. I'm very willing to bet there have been guys interested but either too afraid or thinking that you don't want a guy, you just want to hang out and have fun. Guys are afraid of rejection. They will not ask you out if they think they will get shot down. Do you ever flirt with these guys? I'm betting not. Soften up a bit. Flirt with them a bit. Smile more, dial it back just 50%. Let them do small things for you - get you that beer, open your door, fix the whatever on your car. A more open, softer, approachable version of G may well see different results. I've seen this in female friends of mine and when they dial back things change. You will still be you but in layers.

Hope that makes sense. Have you ever been told this before? Something tells me you have but you struggle with how to do it. Again, to be very clear... I don't want you to change who you are. Don't be fake but present the best first version of you that you can, a more open, softer, flirty, but still sassy G.