I'm hoping -no scratch that- 'going' to make the trip great for both Ss and me. I offered the boys the option of Euro Disney or an RV tour of Scotland and they went for the latter.
As usual JTB your insight is brilliant, considering my emotions at the time I can't deny that there wasn't a hint of me trying to impede W's plans. I wouldn't say it was 100% vindictive or passive-aggressive for reasons such as the two day course being free, won't get an invite to the Saturday family get together and it's a subject that I've been interested in for a while, plus W did mention Saturday plans hadn't been confirmed when I went ahead and booked the course. However, thinking she'd be staying over at OMs the night before and swan-in at what time she felt like the next day did play on mind; you're right I need to do better and rise above that.
As for the 'simmering anger' don't think you're too far off the mark there either. Internally I'm still dealing with some considerable resentment and this probably emanates in any tense discussion that W & I have. I appreciate your thoughts/comments and recognise the long term damage this could do -judging by W's response think she has already picked up on this- so will work on channeling or using this in a more positive way in future.
Huddy,
Yeah heard the 'we're done' speech along w/ ring removal about 5 weeks ago after W had attended/completed 'End of Relationship' counseling at Relate... "I've been signed off, I'm good to go!" she says. But then in a recent txt she mentions still grieving for me & the marriage! How confuzzled would a person be if you didn't know of MLC crazy land?
Me 50, ExW 49 T21, M13+ S15, S13 BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY) Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts Oct-2016 W petitions for D Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed Jun-2018 D'd
