If he did think you'd notice he probably figured you'd feel the way you do, which is angry obviously, but because you have been deeply wounded. This may mean he wants to not only do what he wants, but to also defy you a bit, and get a little revenge. The subtext might be "See csabo, you don't get to control me anymore, if I can't get it with you I can get it somewhere else, that's what you get for neglecting me!" In a way this is just an evolution of a fight you've probably had many times in your M.
Like DB says, the best thing to do sometimes is 'do something different'. By not responding the way he expects, or that you are naturally inclined, you give the chance to achieve a different result.
Try to remember that beneath all of this your spouse is simply in pain beyond his ability to cope. That doesn't mean you don't establish boundaries to protect yourself. But do continue to focus on you, your 180s, your reactions, and your ability to do what's right even when you don't always feel like it. So far so good.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
