H filed for divorce - is it too late?

[Zues126]

No. You're part of the real world that he doesn't want to deal with right now.

I would recommend not having a big confrontation. There is zero chance he will see things your way. You see csabo, if someone can actually DO these things, they aren't going to suddenly feel bad about it when you call them out. If they were going to feel bad they would have before they did them. But instead he has a ton of rationalizations, justifications, and all kinds of other ways it's all your fault or no big deal. If you confront him you will only accomplish two things: 1) You will get to hear his recorded rationalizations, lies, and blame, just like pressing play on a recording, and 2) He will find ways to add your reaction to his list of reasons he has to leave, and just run further away.

Actions, not words. But no actions while you're emotional. If you start reacting impulsively due to pride, pain, or need to be in control, well, now you're acting like he is. Someone needs to keep their wits about them. Be a leader and act with the character you wish he had. If you can't do it, how do you expect him to?

You've got this c.