H filed for divorce - is it too late?

[Zues126]

Wow, sounds like she's a real prize.

My DB coach told me once that when someone does something TO you in an attempt to make you feel a certain way, you can tell what their motivation is based on how what they do makes you feel. This seems counter intuitive because we're told not to mind read, but my DB coach said that this only applies if the person is deliberately trying to get a reaction from you, and if they are intimate with you emotionally. So here's the grid:

If you feel POWERLESS, they feel POWERLESS and are trying to assert control over the situation.
If you feel INADEQUATE, they also feel INADEQUATE and are trying to bolster their confidence.
If you feel HURT, they are feeling VENGEFUL at some pain they feel you've caused them.
If you feel IRRITATED, they feel NEGLECTED and are vying for your attention.

So- did he show this off to you? Did he do this in a way that you would find out? If so, how did you feel? What is he trying to accomplish?

Doesn't sound to me like someone that is emotionally detached. Sounds like a game from someone trying to act like they're in control when they're tied more deeply then they even realize, have no idea the consequences of their actions, and won't really know their true values until they get some hard wake up calls down the road and have to make some real decisions.

Don't try to manufacture his 'rock bottom', and don't play games back. But don't you dare give up csabo. Believe none of what he says and half of what he does. Got it?