A mini-BD today: W asked me (again) to work on our DYI divorce paperwork. I told her, "I am not able to make myself look at it. I am returning the packet to you. I'm willing to answer all questions about our finances."
I've wondered if it would show some strength for me to do the paperwork for her, but I just can't get myself to do it. My IC thought it was OK to handle it this way. Why parent my W by helping her figure out the divorce paperwork?
(Well, one reason is to save money but ... at this point I want to say screw it)
I've been slacking in keeping up with everyone this past week, but I'm taking the same tact FG. Let the W drive pushing this thing forward if it's what she wants. Don't stand in the way if they do push it, but don't do all the work for them. I think that shows your strength to her.
That said, do protect yourself and be knowledgeable like everyone else said. Knowing you though, I'm sure you've already done this to a large degree.
Mules, your posts are very helpful for all of us in-house S folks. It's nice to see someone who has survived and thrived after the "joys" of in-house S. Very stressful 24/7. It seems like we are all destined to be more hardened and stronger when we come out on the other side. I also worry about trust in the future, but it sounds like you've figured it out.
FG keep being strong brother. You're doing good things, keep it up!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
