You know I agree with everyone who posted above. Including, through my own experience, being able to endure the separation my H required.
It was the bleakest day of my life, last April Fool's Day. When my redhead jauntily (and fearfully, lots of bravado) filled up his car with his stuff and drove off.
But (as U know) I have done ok without him here.
Better than ok.
And now he wants to come home. We're getting close again. Time heals. Distance too. And since you have your daughter, you will still have reason and opportunity to stay connected.
Trust me, there IS relief when they finally drop the other shoe (stop threatening to go, and go.)
Repeat after me:
"Focus is on KAW'S magic, KAW'S dreaming, KAW'S healing."
I don't wanna be the voice that puts CAW down. I don't think U should clobber her. I just think "180 Time."
Not holding her hand. Would that qualify?
Big empty boxes.
As many as she needs.
Smile.
Don't be available beyond that.
I love you, hope I'm not being harsh.
Trip to the coast, even if only in your mind... It's beautiful, sunny and blue here. Big ocean. Into which to throw your troubles.
I know (we all do) that you love CAW, and she isn't really a fool, just a little unwell. Sorry for what sound like slams. But I'm taking YOUR side in this. You are the sane one, and you will survive and thrive.
