newbie. sep 6months. Little hope for reconcilation

[Surfer]

I certainly was a positive influence to her self esteem but she has made negative remarks in the past regarding self-esteem? I have been accused of not listening to her and I'm sure I'm guilty of that.

Okay. Show me one woman who has a man that always listens and validates. I'll show you a woman that is married to a homosexual or a female in drag. Men are just naturally poor at this. Don't beat yourself up. If you didn't listen at all and she was head over heels in love with you - she would not care about listening.

I am still cr@p at it naturally. I am trying though and she does see it, I can tell. Because she tells me more now! We are separated too don't forget. Don't get me wrong - it bores the sh!t out of me, and I know I can't just do it for now. But I do have to pay extra attention for now - and enough forever if this ever works out. If it does not, it's okay to just listen to what I need to the rest can be tuned out. Happy days either way!

Surfer.