Wow SH, everyone should really read and re-read what you just wrote. You explained it much better than my IC did when we were focused on me controlling my anger. Even though I got a basic understanding of how I could control my reaction to anger, I didn't correlate it to other emotions, such as responding to a comment from WW that I felt I had to defend myself.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized