You can validate without agreeing or being a yes man.

The coach said not to wear ring? Was this to show you are moving on or why?

Even if you have other finances, listen to cadets advice.

If your W wants back and you don't,she will change into someone you may want back. Maybe she is not interesting to you now, but she may not be the same person later.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together