The Thread w/o a Title

[sage]

KAW --

First off, I'm really sorry about all this. You say you're back to square one -- I respectfully disagree -- you've got a big old bag of DB'ing knowledge PLUS a host of friends standing by with support and advice (when/if you want it) and warm thoughts. None of that is to minimize what's going on for you -- a la the "bomb dropping redux" -- but it is a reminder that we're in your corner.

So...next steps?

Well...seems like the first one is to validate w's letter...thru minimal talk (IMHO) but instead a warm open squeeze...a "I got your letter. Thank you for being so open with your thoughts", thru "yes, I can understand your feelings", etc.

the best DB'ing you can muster!

And, I suppose if she brings it up again, it may include agreement or validation as to her desire for a separation, right? Not outright -- yah, let's go for it (unless that's how you feel?) but more -- yes, I can see how you feel that is the next step...then, silence.

And not at all in the background...but in the forefront...thoughts of what YOU want, KAW. What is that, friend?

Sage