That had to be one hard letter to read! (and to write)
A couple of questions. In previous posts, you mentioned CAW was depressed. Is she on meds? Does she need to see the doctor again? Do either of you see a counselor?
Let's be honest here. You can't stop her from moving out. But you don't have to do the moving. You don't have to make this easy on her. Remember, this is about what she wants. It may be a dose of reality to let her figure out how to go about a separation.
For right this minute (day), take time for you. Get some sleep. Tell CAW you need a day or two to think before you have any discussion about the letter or the separating.
KAW, you have good insight. What would you tell somebody else if they were experiencing the same situation?
There's a reason you were thinking of Plan B. Of course you don't want to use it. None of us do! Plan B exists b/c we know we can't control our S. We can make changes in ourselves, but we can't bend S.
You love her. CAW says she loves you. Believe her. She does love you. Right now, she is very unhappy. She just needs to figure out that it isn't you that is making her unhappy. It is something inside her that she needs to see and change. It isn't going to matter where she is, that unhappy feeling will be moving right along with her. It may take her moving out to see that the unhappiness isn't you or the marriage. Please keep us updated on what is going on.
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
