but you knew it was headed that way, so you have an advantage that most of us didn't - this bump has been a long time coming - and crud if she didn't pull the plan first - scuse me but that bites
but let's deal with the facts. your ok - you sound ok - you were ready for this - you knew it was coming - now all your thoughts about plan b need to be put into effect immediately - you been thinking about this for awhile - stay calm - give her what she wants with no strings attached. after all, all she is asking for is a seperation, and this COULD be just the thing that is needed for her to clear her head
can she make it on her own? these are things she needs to figure out. let me tell you as a walk away once that making it on my own was a HUGE thing for me - and that was only after 11 years of marriage -
kaw - remain calm - obviously she thinks that it will become a blame game or a shouting match, do not let either one happen. you are the one with the skills so you will be the one that leads this next chapter - it can be ugly - or it can be freeing
your choice
i dont have lots of advice, except to say you are at the right place
