Life has changed, and I choose to grow from it.

[RosaLinda]

Sorry you're not feeling well Sh, I know exactly the kind of cold you mean. It sounds so...wimpy I guess, to complain (vent? LOL) about having a cold because it sounds so benign, but boy oh boy, they surely make you feel so cruddy. Hope you feel better soon!

What are your feelings about the divorce action your wife filed being dismissed due to her and her lawyer not following thru? Will the fact that you paid and filed the forms she requested make it go thru on your end? Maybe you will not be joining us over in Surviving after all!

Oddly I feel a strong desire to just focus on myself and create the person in me that will attract the person I beleive that I desire to be partners with and build that wonderful relationship that I am afraid I had given up hope on many years ago.
Almost as if I have been given a second chance to get to be the me that I truly am and want to be and be with the person that will love and cherish me.

Are you referring to a real person (your wife or some other woman you know) or is the person you want to attract a hypothetical future life partner? You are a great guy, and all the work you are doing on yourself is turning you in to quite a catch, hopefully for your wife once she comes back to her senses, or if she does not, for some other worthy woman.

Start to write your own ending, to your story....
Oh, and if you like that line, you should "like" that line....

This is great advice from Mach. I know that your situation with your wife makes you feel a bit depressed around the edges, that's normal, but how exciting to be given a second chance to be the you that you really are inside. That is exactly how I feel too. I truly wanted to reconcile with my ex, but am now glad that it did not work out, and am so grateful to have been given a second chance. Life is good! And I "liked" that line too!