KAW,

I can relate. I was ashamed of the wife I used to be.

And I feel like I get a lot of praise on here.

And I also get some well-needed 2 x 4's. However, I do feel like I have made and continue to make mistakes in my DBing efforts.

And am amazed that Husband took me back/came back to me anyway.

I look at all the incredible people on this bb and wonder why mine came back and theirs haven't/didn't.

And my best answer is despite our efforts, a significant portion of the results really depend on the Walk Away Spouse.

It sounds to me like you understand this.

And I'm happy that you will have more time to read and contribute to the BB.

I know we are always harder on ourselves than others. You have been a great inspiration to me, my friend.

You state things with so much compassion and clarity.

I continue to learn so much from you.

You ARE worthy of praise.

As for Plan B...I've been thinking along the same lines. And I like how you put it.

If I'm understanding you correctly.

Plan A is to do 180's that draw the spouse back.

Plan B is to do 180's that demonstrate to the spouse that you are perfectly capable of moving on.

From what I've seen, you've been doing Plan A perfectly.

If you are ready to implement Plan B...I'm behind you 100%.

Hugs.

PIB