newbie. sep 6months. Little hope for reconcilation

[Cessna]

I don't know because I'm new here but it sure seems like WAW or WW do the most bizzare things that they would of never done previous. like a 180 personality?

[Cherry]

I wouldn't acknowledge the anniversary at all. It was mine at the weekend, neither of us mentioned it. In his head we are already divorced (this is what he told me). So I completely left it.

And yeah, you will notice the strangest of behaviour. That's why it's so important we detach because it will send you gaga! My h is up, down, left, right all over the joint. That's why we stay steady and constant. You never quite know what to expect from them next. If it wasn't our lives and relationships it could almost be humourous some of the crazy sh!t they say and do!

[Cessna]

Thanks Doodler and Cherry! That's kind of what I thought. But this will be one more things that will set her into a spitting rage. Doesn't count if she doesn't recognize though.

[Cadet]

I don't know because I'm new here but it sure seems like WAW or WW do the most bizzare things that they would of never done previous. like a 180 personality?

YES - that is part of the script.

[Surfer]

Cessna,

Where are you on WW V WAW?

Apologies if I missed this and you have got it clear.

Surfer.

[Cessna]

Surfer, I still don't know. No reason or evidence to suggest WW. She definitely has the opportunity do to travel. MLC for sure after studying up. So WAW too? Not sure how this categorizing is going to help. Need to read up on your sitch again. Biggest questions is why don't they just divorce after 7 months? Its been screamed at me, written, and texted. Probably 6-7 times. Broke DBing Sat night and said a couple lines of "don't contact me anymore". "Leave me alone"! This was after major rants about how much of a loser I am. She seems much nicer now?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

They must know they have the power to make/break or punish? You aren't alone!

You are also not powerless in this.
Do not equate the pain of your CHOICE to use DB as not having any control or power.

[roist]

Those are not necessarily mistakes but without knowing full context including tones it is hard to comment. You are right to stand up for yourself BUT a better tactic could be instead of fighting back (reacting) you stop the fight.Do not continue any conversation if not done in a respectful way. She can rant and rave all she wants but you can CHOOSE to not entertain it. Reread the boundaries thread.

Best wishes

[Cessna]

I've been going pretty dark for about 3 weeks. She seemed more angered (I think because of darkness)and now she is doing the same thing. Keep on keeping on?

[RDS]

Before you went dark how were things? If what you're doing isn't working then it's time to start doing something else.