Believe it or not, I know how you feel. When people tell me that, I always wonder if they really do. As similar as one’s sit can be to another person, there are always differences, and if the situational differences aren’t enough, there are individual differences. KAW isn’t Andy, and Andy isn’t KAW.
I went through a period in which I thought it would be easiest to pack it in. There’s no shame in calling it quits. In fact, some would argue that the shame would lie in trying to have something that you never can/will have.
I hate the phrase “give up.” It sounds like you’ve failed. But perhaps it’s all a person can do if their SO gives up and doesn’t give you a chance to work on things.
I guess what I’m trying to say, KAW, is that there’s no right or wrong. All there is, is what you want, and what CAW wants.
Ya try to figure out what she wants so you can give it to her. Ya try to psychoanalyse her so you can figure out why nothing you say or do is good enough. Ya drive yourself crazy trying to give her what you think she wants whilst trying to get what you want.
And all you want is for her to love you.
But she won’t give you what you want.
So you wait.
You hope.
Eventually, you give up.
And after all of your fruitless effort, you don’t feel good about giving up.
I’ve been there, KAW. I came out of it – whether that’s a good thing or not, I don’t know. I’m either a “great guy,” or just plain stupid. That’s a judgement I’ll leave to others.
So, I have no advice for you, my friend. Just want you to know I empathize.
