Focus on Me and my Boys 8

[rich4j]

JK-

I totally understand the pull to the reconcile option and have heard it in your "voice/posts" for a while now

I would ask you this hard question that you can only answer " Do you want HER" or do you want "the family back together"

I ask only becuz I have asked myself the same question over and over and I don't have 5 kids! only 1. I gravitated towards wanting her back when the door was open a bit but I wans't being honest with myself. Reality was I wanted the family back and only her if I hit the time maichine and zapped her back 7+ years which ain't happening

Pls dont get yourself into a harder situation without being honest with yourself. If it is her , then go with it and just protect yourself but I would take such babysteps that you don't move anywhere and do it on your terms only

Take a 1/2 step validate, see how she is for a while then take another baby step. rinse repeat