And then there's trust. Once we've been fooled, it's just so hard to trust our instincts again. I was completely hit out of the blue with EA bomb drop last November. So how do I know if she's telling the truth now?
You don't. And it is not your instinct that you don't trust, its your W.
Your instinct is fine...its your mind that is pushing hard on those instincts to be OVERLY vigilant.
I told my wife, that I would snoop, I would wonder, that she needed to understand this and be ok with that if we were going to move forward. That in time with her actions her assurance I would stop snooping and looking over time, it would become less and less until I trusted her again and I would eventually. That not telling me something because she thought I would get mad, I would see as a lie if I found out.
Trust but Verify.
No passwords, for either of us, she could look at my phone at any time just like I could look at hers. Transparency.
WE both KNEW that trust had to be rebuilt and she was willing to put herself out there in order for that to happen.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
