My Wife Walked Out 6

[RSG]

Well, another tough day but for different reasons.

I talked to fatboy's W most of yesterday. She told me stuff that floored me. Sex in the woods, behind dumpsters, drunk in parking lots before they knew each other's names. Everything, EVERYTHING she's told me this entire year has been a lie. I got all my anger out yesterday. From what his W said, they are TRULY addicted to the high and are thinking about as clearly as a strung out heroin addict. They have no money, get drunk all the time, go to strip joints and drop the money they do have. He doesn't see his child, or his invalid bedridden parents. My W is controlling the hell out of him, as he's tried to leave 4-5 times and she convinces him she's pregnant. It seems like she's figured out she can't control me, and my son cannot be controlled by anyone, so she's found a weak doofus who she can manipulate like a marionette. Coconut, you're right. Something built on these lies, deception and moral garbage is a ticking timebomb.

My reaction is: It's all about my baby now. When this thing blows up, and it will, she will either do the things I ask as Sandi has written constantly about. Or she will not be allowed home.


I called the L this morning. He told me that, based on our current pattern of him sleeping at my house 6 days a week (and doing so for roughly 2 months) along with the fact she abandoned him (not in the legal sense, but the practical) and left home leaving him with me, it's almost cut and dry that I'd be named his physical and legal Custodian. She would also owe me child support, and on top of that have to pay a percentage of any doctor bills, tuition and insurance premium costs. HUGE HUGE HUGE.

I don't believe my wife is a fit parent, and I worry about my son in such a toxic, evil, dysfunctional environment. I truly have no idea who this woman is.

It's a tough day, because I can see myself bawling signing the papers but knowing it's right. I can see myself having the discussion with my son in a few years "Daddy, why did Mommy leave?" I can see myself as the Dad who shows up to Muffins with Mom at school. It's tragic, horrifying and just plain disgusting. She will have potentially traded FOURTEEN years of my son's life, and possibly more once he's of age because who knows what he'll think then, for what? A big, fat, stupid bum. God help me.

The thing of it is, when I was talking to his W last night I recognized all the things she was saying. All the signs I've read about here. There's no love there. No future. No nothing. She spammed me a bunch this morning, because she's freaking out and still trying to tell me how to feel, how to react and what to do. MORE control. I told her she has a LOT of work to do to earn my trust, because I don't believe a word she says. She said why, we're not together. I said forget marriage or so-called coparenting. I mean as a person. She said that was the "most civil thing you've said to me that I would like to work towards." What a joke. Oh, and she's so paranoid. EVERYONE is against her!

His W said he feels sorry for them. She still wants him to come home. I told her some DB stuff, told her not to beg or plead anymore but if he DOES come home again to not accept any stipulations from him. Because he'll just continue to do what he wants anyway.

I'm handling this the best I can. I'm living. I'm happy my son will be in a loving, safe home with his Daddy as much as possible. I can't believe she did this to us, and more importantly him. It's preposterous.....