Two years is a long time to work on saving your marriage. Since your wife is still there (and no OM?) I’d say you’ve done well. I and others are proud of the commitment you have shown and what you have accomplished!
I also see you have gone through some difficult periods where you considered throwing in the towel. Welcome to "Fighting for your Marriage" Club. First rule, no tapping out!
You might find it helpful to ponder some things you posted here a while back:
Originally Posted By: roist
I will not give up on her, us or my family.
Originally Posted By: roist
Looking around it is disheartening to see so many couples unhappy or splitting. For better or worse is what we sign up for. The way I look at it if we get through this we can only be better.
Why did you write these points, and how do you feel about them now?
Like you, I too felt overwhelmed when first reading the looooong running MLC stories here, and couldn’t bear the thought of this journey taking years and years. Thing is, it is what we make of it. If you haven’t already, you might consider reading Viktor Frankl’s book “Mans Search for Meaning” to understand how he made it through a situation much tougher than anything we are dealing with.
The key, I think, is to find a way to make this period easier on us. If we are struggling in pain we’ll never make it to the place we hope to be.
Like my wise friend T2 used to say, You got this.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
