Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 4)

[JRuss]

I don't disagree with any of that, sandi. I think in my situation, since we have this bizarre "1-2 years for the kids' benefit" thing laying over our sitch, that my W, at least for now, sees that as when she'll "escape" and hasn't felt the need to go further down the wayward road, because she knows she's out at something like a date certain (that, apparently, only she gets to know). I definitely understand that she's vulnerable to some smooth talking POS swooping in, though, believe me: it makes me crazy thinking about the possibility, and I try to keep it compartmentalized, because it's debilitating and keeps me from DBing. Thank you as always for the thoughts, and I don't judge for liking romance novels once upon a time!

RDS -- thanks for the kind thoughts re the anniversary. I'm just going to try to stay busy and treat it like any other day, and, hopefully, a good day with lots of GAL and kid stuff.