That trip with your son sounds awesome. I hope you enjoy it.
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It ends in a difference of opinion, she sees us as separated & I don’t, not until we’ve moved away/out anyway. Still can’t help thinking I could’ve handled this situation better though.
On one hand you did ok. On the other hand, yes you could have. You ever notice how hard it is to change someone's mind? It's almost like they have to change it themselves when they gather new information on their own...
Let's say...I LOVE the Idea of independant Scotland. And let's say you don't. How are you going to change my mind? Notice how I pulled up something more or less current and relevant? Did you notice that all the arguing and logic didn't change anyone's mind about whatever side they landed on?
Hero, sir,
How much of what you are doing is intentionally either passive aggressive, or done on purpose to impede or hinder her plans; vindictive?
I think you are better than that sir.
A question, do you want her to choose to come back to you, or force her back to you?
I get the feeling that there is a lot of simmering anger, that's not a surprise, in you right now. If you cannot manage it, or alleviate, it s going to sour everything you do in regard to her. It will seep into every interaction, and it will be noticed.
You are also doing alot of thinking what she must be thinking, or saying... Mind Reading Hamster Wheel pointless
wasting your time, and fueling your anger, on imagined slights.
Kill your anger, or use it as a shield, and not a sword. Stop saying snide comments, stop getting the last word. These are battles you can win, and cost you the war.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
