Trying to do everything your W tells you, is not how you save the MR. Hopefully, this new job will help you find confidence again. When some men stay home without a job, they tend to swap traditional roles with the W......and it results in loss of respect from her. However, if he doesn't have a job and she does have a job, he certainly should keep the house running smoothly. He just doesn't need to fall into that subservient attitude.
I realize you are impatient and want precise instructions as to what to do next. We are trying to help you, but it takes a little time for us to fit the pieces together.
So, are you following the 37 rules? Have you read all the threads about a wayward wife? If not, then please do so, and it should help you determine if it sounds similar to what you are seeing in your W.
WW's are usually quite angry at the H, and he feels he can't win. Trying to accommodate whatever she wants, doesn't produce her desire for her H. He can't act like a doormat and expect her to fall into his arms. Anyway, read those threads I suggested.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
