SH, I really appreciate your thoughts, and I welcome anyone's support and am touched that I'm in your prayers, being a woman of faith, that means a lot as at the end of the day- god is the only person who knows what plan he has for us, and I believe in the power of prayer.
Perhaps my post should have outlined a little clearer on me and what I'm doing and my plan moving forward.
I totally agree with you, without him coming to me with his solutions on working on himself and full remorse, and seeing positive actions, all I shall do is acknowledge that he's thinking and carry on as normal. I won't take the crumbs, and I certainly won't make his life easy, not to find myself back here again- building myself up is too hard, long and painful. And I know I deserve to be cherished and respected- and he isn't capable of either right now.
Grl, I appreciate you coming by again means a lot you come out of hiding to help me (just shows how lovely and amazing you are!!). I get what you mean, most of the time, I find it helpful. But there is times when I sometimes feel I'm focussed a bit too much on him than I would prefer. Then like you say, I take a little step back and focus solely on me, leave him be for a while. But it is generally quite beneficial I feel for me to see which of my behaviours help him sit up and take note a little better. My dropping him and being completely unphased by his attention seemed to have got him curious, and that's how I'll continue. It's also easier for me, as my entire thoughts are focussed on me, my agenda and what I need to do.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
means a lot you come out of hiding to help me (just shows how lovely and amazing you are!!). I get what you mean, most of the time, I find it helpful. But there is times when I sometimes feel I'm focussed a bit too much on him than I would prefer. Then like you say, I take a little step back and focus solely on me, leave him be for a while. But it is generally quite beneficial I feel for me to see which of my behaviours help him sit up and take note a little better. My dropping him and being completely unphased by his attention seemed to have got him curious, and that's how I'll continue. It's also easier for me, as my entire thoughts are focussed on me, my agenda and what I need to do.
