How to rekindle love? (2)

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Ugh...I am so bad at this....
kept meaning to reply and then I would side track.
I really am gonna come up with a better method to my madness in this forum.


Yes, the kid that does not believe....
My D18 was that way for some time.....
Your not gonna want to hear this, but...
Patience...consistent attempts to find that common ground and interest that opens up the opportunity.

I get frustrated watching him suffer when there are things he could do to help himself.

Really?!?! I did not see this as a challenge for you. LOL
Just kidding...I noticed you are like me in this manner....it is a point that I am trying to change for myself at home, work, even here some days.....
I know others just are not going to see it the way I do, so I must enhance my ability to positively influence....Then it is up to them....I can not force them to do what I know will help them.

Talk...that is another thing that I believed that helped me.
I work to make space for her to talk to me....I find the she works out more of it by talking to me than anything I have ever say.

I also drop small things for her...
Texts with quotes...
YouTube video that she may find interesting...
short articles from the web about topics...
Things that share what I would share, but for some reason when it comes from another source, our children are more apt to pay attention and grab on to it.


What other details might you be able to share with me?
Examples of things you are working on with him or want him to work on?
Maybe we can test some things and see what you get.
Not gonna lie to you. I'm not a super dad so much as I trial and error as much as possible to find what works for my kids.
I never found that perfect dad manual that I always wanted to buy so it would be easy...
And I think God knew I needed really good kids, because they may teach me more than I really think I teach them...... or I am just one lucky SOB