Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #4]

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mulesqb - reading your post made me wonder - curious of the percentage of divorce for those who come her and have a live in vs. those who S via different places? Doubt there are any quantification floating around, but there are a few of us who all kinda got here at the same time. I know for myself and some other contemporaries, no way could see a live-in sitch, too dmn challenging. I feel much more likely to succeed while her and I are apart. Yes, apart, she has full mystery to see OM and act how she wants, but I am also pain free as I have the same mystery for her (even though for me there is no other except my little black dog, numerous pushups, and some textbooks). I am lovingly detached and not sure I would have made that if I remained in co-habitation. You have thoughts on what I've said? Thanks.

PS - congratulations to the happiness of where you life is now and I think it is very cool that you revisit here. I intend to do the same one day, for better or worse as they say.

FG -not a full hi-jack, my suggestions were that you speak with new people -BUT, my question was do you have any challenges planned for yourself? Great that you can speak with people - can you walk into a bookstore/music store/ coffee shop make eye contact for more than a few seconds with any woman, walk over and pay one single compliment that is flirty which gets a return comment, and then walk out on your terms leaving both smiling? Can you go for a jog along a new river shore at 5am get back to the hotel by 545, shower, shave dress, and still hit the 7am mixer breakfast in the lobby? Can you set a target to do anything that you have not done in this city before with the amount of time you have? When I travel its all business too - I keep either late nights, early mornings, or both - you can too. Time exists for you, you can find it, I believe in you. It may be simple like read instead of watching tv, try anew cologne on the trip, where your tie knot different or no tie, but dude - do anything, do anything new and challenging for you big small - for you. Your reply to me above was excusing what I suggested into oblivion. Really, get some of you.