Trying to detach - part deux

[Cherry]

Forgump, I think your ic is right. When I stepped back and allowed him to start living his life and making his decisions for himself. It's like living as if the d has happened, it helps us to be stronger without them and them to feel the consequences of their actions.

Coly, that's great that you said it in your head so felt more at peace. There's things that seem anti db-big and people have the ruminating vs dwelling/venting argument. But I think whatever helps you to get through and get stronger you do. Once a lot of firsts are done with, it does get easier. And you're getting there hang in there