I agree that he's on a fishing expedition and wants to see just what you have. He doesn't stop to realize that he's in the same boat of having someone living w/him and she is most likely getting some type of social security check because of not being able to work. Also, that home is in his name. I think he figures that you are using the child support to do whatever and not using it for the children. May I suggest that you come up w/a spreadsheet that indicates all expenses for the children, i.e., what comes in and what goes out. What you and your NG brings home is none of his business. The only people he needs to be concerned with are the children.
I'm wondering why he suggested a trust. Does he think that no one will be looking at that trust? Does he think that his name would go on it and then he could come along and take money out whenever he wanted. The kids need the child support now and not later.
If this issue comes up, I would suggest that he lay out all of his financial information too and I wouldn't cough up any info until he's done his as well. BTW, how does he know what you have or don't have?
Don't agree to anything. I think the current way of doing things is working nicely. It's his problem if he's having financial difficulties. Maybe it's time to put Big Momma to work doing something, even if it's answering a telephone for a telemarketer. Maybe he needs to consider selling the money pit he's living in and go from there. Maybe he's thinking about retiring on disability and knows he won't have the funds to meet his child support payments. But again, he created his house of horrors and now he needs to figure things out. Don't give him an inch.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
