I Guess husband is stuck in a MLC

[AJM]

That's why I wished you joy and not happiness. Joy can come much sooner, while happiness waxes and wanes with the wind.

In my experience, if your goal AmyTx is to experience happiness, you'll tumble up, over.. and down like a puppy in the surf.

To Cali's point, you do the work, you will get there and when you look back, be glad you did.

What you describe is sadly, not as uncommon as we'd like to believe. Nor would we want to believe it can happen to us. I'd say this board is proof it does though. And also proof that if you do that work described in the various posts, you and will be joyful and able to trust another human being again. Perhaps even your H.

AJ