Trying to detach - part deux

[ForGump]

What about your W Gump? Was that a test by the way!!

Not a test. My IC asked me why do I love my W. I think she asked so I can reflect on my attraction to her, see how healthy it is or isn't, and hopefully not repeat any unhealthy tendencies in myself in the future.

For me, first there is the physical attraction. There are lots of nice folks out there but there has to be that to begin with, no? She can be intensively loving. Can be full of joy. She's not materialistic. Values people and experiences, not status or things (like cars, house, clothes, jewelry, etc.)

But each of the above is one facet of a complicated thing that is a person's personality. There are downsides. Primarily that I believe my W has some type of a psychological condition called borderline personality disorder, plus a ton of anxiety. What it all means is that throughout life she feels a deep hole in her heart that she needs to fill with intense attention from people, and is, over the long term, unable to find happiness from a stable (boring), loving (suffocating) relationship.

Sounds harsh but I'm trying to be brutally honest.