Jack, He certainly isn't practicing DB. The first chance he got, he's already having argument w/his xw about what transpired in the last eight months. Of course, the xw is gong to say sorry a few times because he's most likely brow beating her down into guilt over her actions. This is not DBing.
I guess what he posted earlier on this thread has now gone out the window, i.e., "I keep sending her positive energy every night when I meditate and I turned on ACCEPTANCE, I will accept whatever she decides to do and live with that and GRATITUDE, I am thankful to her for causing me pain that way allowing me to improve myself and become a better person."
He certainly isn't showing gratitude if he's already coming out swinging at his xw about her actions. Now is not the time to brow beat the spouse because of what they've done. If you have any hope of trying to mend fences you have to take things slowly and there will come a time to sit down and discuss things in a calm manner. Arguing the first chance you get will set the process back and she may even keep her distance versus coming closer.
I'm still trying to figure out why Cld is here if he's got all of the answers and isn't willing to listen to anyone on this Forum. There certainly aren't any magic bullets, unicorns or faeries that are going to fix his situation w/a snap of the fingers. But, like all of us, he will have to learn the lessons in his own time and yes, make a few mistakes along the way.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
