What should I be doing (Working toward D 9)

[Zues126]

Seems like too much to me. I'd go with:

"Transitions like this can be hard on everyone at times. With time I know we will all be in a better place."

I think she'd have to be much more clear and open than that before you give her the time of day with an emotional response. All she is doing is blaming, judging, and temp checking. Don't even break your stride.