Since we are not talking and I've been advised to zip my lip about R talk I will post my thoughts here.
We have a lot of problems, all that could be fixed. One problem is blame. My W blames me for all her problems. I think this is to protect her self-esteem. I've read spouses that blame tend to refuse marriage counseling.
Hmmmmm. So the one problem that you point out is your your wife's.
Sounds like she isn't the only one playing the "blame game"
